Suffering is optional

Posted on December 5, 2015. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Life holds so many mysteries and surprises – some exciting and uplifting, some downright devastating.  No one seems to make it through life unscathed.  We all bear scars of one sort or another as if to prove that yes, we have walked through the fires of life.  Why then do some seem to do it with so much greater ease than others?  What secrets do they know that pave their journey with ease and grace while others are continually raked over the coals?

The answer is both simpler and more complex than you might first imagine.  Life happens.  Pain occurs.  Whether it is physical or emotional, painful things happen.  However, our response to the painful stimuli or the pain itself determines whether we suffer or not.  That response is within our control, and it is our response which gives us the power to move through the pain by letting it pass or to stay stuck in it thereby creating our own suffering.

Suffering is optionalAs you might guess, our thoughts have a tremendous impact on our responses.  If we see life as a struggle, we’re going to attract circumstances to prove that perspective.  Contrarily, if we see life as supportive, we will experience evidence to support that view.  Letting go of the need to suffer then becomes yet another benefit to adopting a positive outlook on life.

The following suggestions can help to shift your thoughts toward a more positive perspective and thus reduce the amount of suffering that you experience.

Accept personal responsibility.

When we assume responsibility for our lives, we put ourselves in a position of power.  We hold the power to choose.  We have the authority to exercise free will.  We can set limits and boundaries.  We put ourselves into the driver’s seat of our life.  We empower ourselves.

By accepting this responsibility, we raise our vibration above helplessness which feeling like a victim to life’s seeming randomness engenders.  This shifts our perspective as well.  It gives us the insight that challenges happen, difficult experiences occur.  However, we no longer see these happenings as meant to beat us down but, in fact, to give us opportunities to rise up.  Challenges become the pathway to personal growth and expansion.  We build upon our previous successes and believe in our ability to overcome whatever life throws our way.  We will not stay down when we know our own power.

Be open to learning.

Life is about the journey, the continual unfolding of experience and understanding.  We are here, I believe, to experience ourselves as the divine creators that we are.  As such, we are continually given happenings through which we can deepen our understanding of ourselves and our power to create.  We learn about our resiliency, our tenacity, our precociousness.  We test our limits so that we can move beyond them.

When life is viewed with the intent to learn something from every experience, we no longer need to judge things as either good or bad since every experience teaches something.  We create more latitude and freedom to go beyond our previously conceived limitations.  When we can release the need to already know everything about life and ourselves, we open to learning more than we ever dreamed possible, often through means which we never even considered.

Don’t take it personally.

We so often act as if everything that we witness in life is aimed at us personally.  We take offense at a friend’s apparent thoughtlessness.  We become wounded because someone we want to be with is busy doing other things.  We assume that our partner’s silence or withdrawal is our fault.  We create stories in our minds that explain whatever we’re observing, and for one reason or another, we make ourselves wrong.

Putting ourselves in this place of being at fault for every little thing stems from the unconscious perspective of being a victim to life.  But we are not victims – we are the creators of our experience.  So when we stop telling stories that perpetuate the myth of our victimhood and stop making up reasons why we are at fault for things, we are free to simply observe life.  That friend’s thoughtlessness may have been caused by her preoccupation with her parent’s failing health.  It had nothing to do with our relationship.  The friend we want to be with who is busy doing other things is juggling a full schedule and will happily spend time with us soon.  And our partner’s silent withdrawal may be his way of dealing with added pressures at work.  Most of the things we observe other people doing have absolutely nothing to do with us.  So quit taking responsibility for their actions.

Being detached enough to simply observe life creates an incredible freedom to respond with love rather than using things as excuses to feel bad about ourselves.  Rather than becoming yet another reason to suffer, life becomes inviting and exciting.

Avoid comparisons.

When we operate from the unconscious perspective of being a victim, we often compare our experiences to others.  Without understanding what someone else has done to get to where we now see them standing in life, we simply decide that we are “less than” or “not enough” because we aren’t also standing there.  We inevitably make the comparisons about our worth which can only be damaging.

When we become confident about our undeniable value and worth, we no longer need comparisons to validate our position.  We realize that comparisons are actually irrelevant.

Trust that things are always working out.

Holding onto the belief that things are always working out for us puts us in a place of positive expectation.  We begin to see our experiences as life affirming rather than negating.  We weather difficulties with more ease because we understand that all situations are temporary and that by not resisting them, we allow them to flow past us more quickly.  We trust that every difficulty is actually an opportunity to break through old limits and create a more expansive future.  We look at our life as the mirror it is and rather than deciding that things are indicating we aren’t good enough, we see the areas in our lives where our beliefs are creating barriers to our potential.  Then we use that information to create even greater joy by moving past those barriers.

Life offers us endless support when we are willing to accept it.  Otherwise, we can also experience an endless array of difficulty which must surely indicate that we are unworthy and unlovable.  Ultimately, the choice is ours.  We can allow life to validate our worth, create ever greater opportunities for growth and endless opportunities to share love.  Or we can wallow in the despair of never being enough, never measuring up to whatever self-imposed standard we’ve created internally, and having no chance of beating the overwhelming odds that life stacks against us.  One choice is filled with love, light, joy and possibility.  The other is mired in despair, helplessness and hopelessness.

Isn’t it awesome that we can choose either option?!

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Let things be

Posted on January 20, 2015. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Can you feel it?  Are you too struggling to find your joy and happiness right now?  Do you feel like part of you has hunkered down and is now in hibernation?  Well, if that’s the case, I want you to know that you’re not alone!

My 2015 started out in the best possible way – connecting with amazing people, having phenomenal experiences, stepping into knowing what I want to leave behind in 2014 and what I want to invite into 2015.  But the first few weeks of this new year have felt all over the board.  Physically, I’ve already had two bouts with cold and flu.  Clearing?  Purging?  I think so – on many levels.  And now my body remains tired.  Overly tired despite getting plenty of sleep.

My mind wants to know what’s going on.  I want to ask myself what it is that I’m doing “wrong,” as if this is somehow wrong.  But I know better than that too.  I KNOW that we are all where we need to be, moving through everything we need to experience.  I trust that it’s all good and that whatever this is, it is happening for my highest good.I will let things be

So I’m left with just one thing:  BE GENTLE.  Those words keep coming to me.  Be gentle – when in the past I might berate myself for “still” being in this space after hours, days, now weeks.

I connect with the people who uplift and support me.  I talk to my friends, many who offer their insights into what they perceive is going on with me.  I balance and weigh their perceptions with what I believe to be true myself.  And underneath it all is the admonition to TRUST myself, to trust the process, my process.  What is right for me isn’t necessarily right for anyone else – but beating myself up definitely won’t make it any easier.

Sometimes the words I offer to my clients during readings are as much for me as they are for them.  Today I am reminded of words that I recently shared with a client – to get out of my own way and stop micro-managing things.  I DO trust that everything is working out.  Some days, the best thing is to just let them be.

I know that in a short time, things will have shifted sufficiently that I will feel completely differently.  So for right now, I vow to just let things be.

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Transcendental Peace

Posted on November 29, 2013. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

In the midst of the stories, dramas, and chaos of our lives, I think we all crave peace.  If you’re like me, Breathe in Peaceyou’ve experienced episodes of this peace at various times in your life.  Some were short and fleeting, others perhaps longer lasting.  I’d like to share with you a recent experience of peace that was simply divine.

I’m not sure that the impetus for this experience really matters, but to create a context, I was with friends watching a televised dialogue between two present-day spiritual teachers.  We were expecting a wonderful experience, and I was more than pleased by what unfolded for me.

Honestly, I don’t even remember the words that were exchanged as I watched and listened to this dialogue.  I do remember feeling supremely connected to my Source, a powerful feeling of Oneness.  I found myself knowing the answers to the questions being posed even before they were offered.  I felt an acceptance, a belonging that transcended time and space.

As I sat in this space of peace, I realized how easy life truly can be if we but allow it.  I knew with a definite certainty that all of the things happening in my life WILL unfold with grace and ease if I just line up with them.  That’s it.  It IS that simple.  It’s merely a matter of releasing all of the reasons that I’m holding onto that say it can’t be that way.

In those moments, I experienced a peace that transported me beyond the confines of this life, of this self I know as Sue.  I was so much more than all of that.  And I knew in those moments that all I’ve asked for already exists, is already mine.  All I have to do is line up with it all.  All I have to do is ALLOW.

In those moments, this sense of peace transcended my life and I knew.  I KNEW.

Back in the midst of the stories and drama of my life, I’m holding onto that knowing, that transcendental peace.  I believe that what I experienced WAS real – and that all I have to do is line up with all that I’ve asked for.  With grace and ease.

 

My thanks and appreciation to Jordan Blackstone of www.imaginethatjbphotography.com for permission to use her photograph.

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Standing in Confidence

Posted on August 2, 2013. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Just two weeks ago when I attempted to write this blog, I was in a completely different space.  Now things have shifted, I have shifted, and I see the same things from this different perspective.

I guess I’m learning (again) to trust the process, my process.  I’m learning to trust this new foundation upon which I’m crafting my ever-expanding, constantly moving world.  I’m experiencing the power and the “rightness” of honoring my truth, sharing my voice and fully experiencing my emotions.

The bottom line is that life continues to be a fluid reflection of my inner world.  As I claim, with confidence and surety, the power of my connection to my Source, others reflect back to me the “magic” of allowing that connection.  It’s become such an anomaly, this natural connection to Source, that when we witness it, we’re awestruck and mesmerized.  The truth of the matter is that we ALL have this connection to Source; we ALL have access to the seemingly magical and miraculous happenings that flow from this connection.  We ALL do.  I’m not special – I’m just practicing living in the space of that connection, and it feels incredible.

sea-103539_1280I shared several Akashic Record readings this week that not only profoundly affected my clients, but which also profoundly affected me.  Each reading is unique and special, but this week something incredible happened for me.  I experienced a deep knowing about the power of aligning with my Soul.  I gained “evidence” of the magic of sharing my gifts in ways that makes my heart sing.  I realized that I am very good at what I do, and the more fully I stand in confidence, knowing Who I Am, the more powerfully I am able to influence my clients’ experience.

Life is all about learning who we are, about experiencing ourselves as the powerful creator of our world, and about allowing love to flow through us unimpeded.  The ways in which we can do all of these things are endless.  We can never get it wrong… but, oh, the deliciousness of how it feels when we allow complete and utter alignment is almost beyond description!

So today, as opposed to two weeks ago, I stand here in eager anticipation of whatever is next.  I stand with great joy and confidence that Life will be exciting and adventurous – and I’m ready.  I’m ready to embrace the entirety of my experience because I KNOW the power of my alignment, and I KNOW that I can come back to this place of alignment whenever I choose.  There is nothing more delicious, nor more exciting, than standing in the power of BEING me.

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FLOW Junkie

Posted on June 23, 2013. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I have a confession to make.  I have become a “Flow Junkie.”  I’m sure it is not as ominous as that might sound, and I surely hope that it’s contagious – because it’s pretty incredible and I’d love for everyone to experience this too.

The other day I had the pleasure of connecting with a friend over a three-hour lunch.  We hadn’t connected in a while, so we both had a lot of interesting life experiences to share.  She said that another friend of hers had “accused” her of being a “flow junkie.”  The phrase stuck with me, and I’ve concluded that I too have become a Flow Junkie.  I think that’s pretty incredible.

Life has continued to propel me along my path.  Sometimes I bounce over the rocks, and sometimes I float along with great ease, but the ground I’ve covered is undeniable.

2012 Jun Andy and Friends Slip N Slide 066In the past year, I’ve directed most of my creative juices in to my Facebook page Soul Speaking.  I’ve experienced great success with it too.  My page has flourished and has over 116,000 followers from around the world.  I now regularly connect with people at a soul-level through Akashic Record Readings.  I’ve become a published author by contributing a chapter to a book about the people behind those FB pages.  While that experience included many unforeseen side-trips, I’m eternally grateful for the blessing that it continues to bestow in my life.

In the past year, I’ve become so much more firmly rooted and grounded in my center, in my connection to MY Source.  I see Life as an amazing unfolding of joyous opportunities to create, expand and experience.  The possibilities are truly endless, and I’ve certainly become “addicted” to feeling this joyous connection.  I crave the high-flying feelings of delight and euphoria as new experiences and opportunities crest over my horizons.  I love knowing with every cell of my being that life is always working out for me, and I love basking in the trust that everything happens for my highest good.

I revel in the relationships made available to me because of this unerring focus on feeling good.  I delight in watching amazing circumstances align themselves for me and for the people in my life.  “Magic” happens regularly.  Miracles have become commonplace!

Oh yes!  I most certainly have become a FLOW Junkie. And I cannot recommend it highly enough.  I really suggest that you try it for yourself.  But I’ll warn you – it doesn’t take much to get you hooked!

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Claiming My Own

Posted on July 4, 2012. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , |

During a recent visit with extended family, I was shown just how radically different my beliefs have become.  My sense of “right” and “wrong” has been completely altered – not that I have different standards now, but it’s almost as if there are no standards except whatever feels best at each and every moment.

Doing something out of a sense of obligation no longer works for me, and watching others act from that duty has become uncomfortable.  Why would I do something that I really didn’t want to do?  Because it would make someone else feel better (i.e. that sense of obligation) is definitely NOT a good enough reason anymore.

So, this visit with extended family gave me an opportunity to observe all kinds of choices – mine as well as other’s.  I tried to hold no judgment because ALL choices are valid, but it was curious to observe MY reaction to the happenings going on around me.

The environment was wrought with anxiety, chaos and turmoil – certainly not the usual energies that I choose to surround myself with.  At times, I felt like I was losing my grip on what has become my new reality – this peaceful, calm, centered way of moving with the flow of life.  Fortunately, I was able to connect with a friend who reminded me that I’ve got this, that I’m good at holding my center.

I believed that these alternate energies could affect my connection to my own truth.  In fact, it is the most natural thing for me to BE in the flow of life.  Anything else that I tell myself is simply part of the old belief system that I am releasing.

So, today I claim MY truth as my own.  I allow myself to remain connected to my Source at all times.  And I celebrate those times when my connection slips because it is through that contrast that I find the clarity of my desire and expand evermore.

It’s another FABULOUS day to be alive.

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Reaching for Happy – I Found Me

Posted on September 3, 2011. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , |

ARE YOU HAPPY?

A potent question.  One I don’t think we give enough consideration to.  Think about what your answer would be…

But STOP!

The question isn’t, “Do you have everything you want?” or “Do you love your __________ (fill in the blank)?”  The question is ARE YOU HAPPY?

This is not a question about external circumstances.  This is a question about your state of being – a completely internal affair.

When put that way, isn’t it easy to see that being happy is SEPARATE from the THINGS in our lives?  Yet, we all seem so ill-equipped to navigate this internal terrain without the touchstones of our physical experiences.  We all hesitate to unequivocally proclaim our happiness because we are not yet THERE – wherever there is.

Being happy does NOT preclude wanting MORE – more money, more love, more fun, more freedom.  Being HAPPY simply declares that I CHOOSE to love where I am – right now, in this moment, however temporary this place may be.  Being HAPPY gives me the power and momentum to attract more into my life – more of whatever I want.

And it is in the PROCESS of attracting, creating, allowing new circumstances into my life that I discover my POWER.  I AM the master of ME.  I AM the creator of my world.

In knowing that it is all up to me, in owning that expansiveness, I allow all sorts of magnificence and abundance into my life.  Happiness is just the portal through which my power flows.

Being happy is not saying that I’m done, that I’ve achieved whatever the goal was – and now there is no more.  To the contrary, choosing happiness invites greater achievements, bigger opportunities, grander adventures.

Every time I get THERE, I can see farther, pursue greater dreams.  Happiness simply fuels the journey.

And therein lies ME – the truth about my magnificence and the power to create worlds.

My journey can never be the same now that I’ve acknowledged my power, now that I’ve found me.

Let the games continue!

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Open to Receiving

Posted on July 19, 2011. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Do you know that you are connected to an endless, streaming, continuous flow of unconditional love?  Do you realize the magnitude and the magnificence of that knowing?

Close your eyes for a minute and recall a moment of pure, utter bliss.  Do you recall the euphoria of that feeling?  The expansiveness of being so much bigger than the physical you in that memory?

Focus on that feeling of bliss, milking it, making it even bigger and brighter.  Savor that feeling for just another moment.

It is in those moments of sheer and utter bliss that we are most closely aligned with our Soul – that beautiful, expansive, loving part of ourselves that is forever connected to God, to Source.  In bliss we stand as one with our Soul, fully embodying the endless and continuous flow of unconditional love from God.  As electricity flows continuously to light a lightbulb, so too does God’s unconditional love flow to and through us to light our lives.

And yet, how often do we unwittingly flip the switch, interrupting our willingness to receive that flow?

Searching for that connection to God, we often erect barriers and obstacles, establishing conditions on our worthiness to receive this endless stream of love from God.  Then we spend our physical lives slowly dismantling those barriers and obstacles.

The truth of the matter, for me at least, is that this wonderful, powerful, healing, all-encompassing stream of loving energy is always available to us.  Always.  Endlessly.  Continuously.

The only question is whether you are open to receiving it?  What would it take for you to allow this endless and continuous love to flow through your life?

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Gaining Gratitude

Posted on October 24, 2010. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , |

The notion of gratitude being an elevated vibrational state is not new to me.  Much information has been devoted to the benefits of cultivating an attitude of gratitude.  While I certainly do not claim to be a master at maintaining this attitude, I am familiar enough with the concept, and even the practice of it.  Still, when given the opportunity to participate in a gratitude workshop while I was in the Chicago area a few months back, I seized the opportunity!

The topic of gratitude interested me, but I was just as interested to visit the Dynamic Ease Wellness Center and the owner, Kerry Sammon, whom I had the pleasure of meeting at another spiritual training event the previous year.  I wanted to see what Kerry had created, where she worked, and what she was doing.  I was more than surprised by the experience that unfolded.

The class consisted of a small number of students, but that only added to the intimacy.  We were led by Kerry through several different meditations during the course of the evening.  While I’ve forgotten the exact words, a few things still stand out vividly in my memory.  One was that we were to imagine a grounding cord extending from us down through the ground to the center of the earth.  We were free to visualize this cord in any form or color that seemed fitting to us.  Mine was a hot pink corrugated hose – of all things!  The image of that just tickled me – I’m not typically a hot pink kind of girl.  (And still, months later, whenever I imagine my grounding cord, it’s still this hot pink hose.)  The other image that remains etched in my memory is one of a golden light showering down over us as we meditated, filling us with a sparkling, glittering light.  I felt infused with love.  Had I not been so securely tethered by my hot pink grounding cord, I just might have happily floated off into the ethers.

All of this imagery and emotional well-being was created by Kerry’s skilled guided meditation focusing on a sense of gratitude.  But that’s not all we did during this enjoyable workshop.  We played several games where we would toss a ball around the group, stating things that we were grateful for every time we caught the ball.  Funny how hard it became to quickly name things when the ball repeatedly came our way.

The evening passed too quickly, but I carried away with me this elevated sense of well-being.  In fact, I stayed in this higher vibration of gratitude and love all through the rest of my weekend in Chicago.

From the vantage point of vibrating in love, I observed a colleague’s pettiness and self-centeredness with detachment, even amusement.  I was able to observe these interactions without absorbing any of their negativity.  I felt “above it” all as surely I was while I allowed myself to stay in this higher vibration of gratitude and love.

This experience solidified for me that there truly is power in the attitude of gratitude.  It both figuratively, and literally, raises us above the denser vibrations of fear, lack, competition and scarcity that we encounter all too often in our daily lives.

To experience this vibrational shift for yourself, there are a number of fun and easy activities you can start today.

1)   Start a gratitude journal.  Find yourself a notebook or journal and personalize or decorate the cover, if you choose.  Each night, write down 5 things about the day for which you are grateful.  Start each new day by reviewing previous lists to set a tone of gratitude for that day.

2)   Find a “gratitude buddy” to exchange daily emails with (contact Kerry at kerry@dynamicease.com for help in setting this up).  Each day send your buddy an email detailing an object of your gratitude.

3)   Spend 5 minutes each day meditating (i.e. sitting quietly) on the idea of gratitude.  Allow the sparkling golden light to shower down upon you, filling every cell of your body with gratitude, love and light.

Cultivating an attitude of gratitude in your spiritual practice may require some disciplined practice until gratitude becomes a comfortable outlook on life.  However, the blessings that gratitude bestows significantly outweigh the effort required to enjoy them.  Have fun with this!  The results will probably surprise you too.

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Enough is NOW

Posted on July 17, 2010. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , |

Once again, I am awed by the synchronicity of life.  While I’ve been busily attending to Albums & Answers, my scrapbooking business, this past month, I’ve also been gathering energy and learning lessons to move me on to the next step of my spiritual growth.  Nothing happens without a reason.  Again, I am seeing the truth of that statement played out in my life.

Psychically I’ve felt that I’ve been stalled – not really in a rut, but not moving in any discernible direction either.  I’m feeling more in tune with my intuition – but still frustrated that I haven’t been able to tune in “on demand”.  In my understanding, that’s the difference between being intuitive and being psychic – one happens at random times, the other happens when you stop to listen.  I see now that again, I’ve been integrating what I’ve been studying and learning.  It’s been part of my process – learning to allow myself to open up.

For Albums & Answers, I’ve driven over 9000 miles in the past 6 weeks.  That translates into lots of hours with not much to do but follow the white lines.  With all of that “quiet time”, my mind wanders to spiritual topics, to angels and messages from beyond.  I love to play games with my angels who send me signs with the number “27” or “127”.  Often, I would laugh out loud at how those number would show up – over and over again!  So while I was the only one physically in my truck, I was never really alone.

Couple that bone-deep knowing with synchronistically reading about past life regressions and having an experience while reading my own Akashic record which helped explain my psychic blocks, and I’m ready to admit that the only thing standing in my way is ME.  While I’ve acknowledged this before, the lesson seems to have gone deeper this time to the point that I truly FEEL it.

So what does any of this have to do with deciding that “Enough is NOW”?

It has everything to do with ACCEPTING that I have everything I need right NOW to allow my psychic gifts and skills.  I CAN see the unseen and hear the unheard.  I CAN access my psychic gifts at will and use them to help other people.  There’s no more waiting for “something” to make it happen or make the time right.  There is no certification or class I need to give me permission to step into my ability to serve others who are seeking to open their eyes to the answers they carry within themselves.  I am here to serve, and I fully accept that mantle.

There is nothing else I need to wait for – nothing else that needs to happen other than my fully opening myself to this next step.  While part of me shudders in fear at what this could possibly mean, I still willingly step into this next phase of my psychic development.

Bring it on!  “Enough” is RIGHT NOW, and I am so ready.

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