Define Yourself

Posted on February 29, 2016. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening | Tags: , , , , , |

At the beginning of our life, we are like sponges, soaking up everything from our environment:  thoughts, beliefs, goals, values, rules, agendas.  We see ourselves through the eyes of those around us.  When they look with love, we learn to love and value ourselves.  But all too often, they look at us through their own woundedness, through their own cracked and damaged filters.  We then learn to see ourselves as flawed and damaged too.

At some point, we hopefully begin to see that this definition of who we are just doesn’t fit
right.  The beliefs that we’re broken, damaged, wrong, flawed – whatever words we’ve come to identify with – start to become uncomfortable, limiting Accept no one's definition of your lifeand restrictive.  The truth of the matter is that they’ve always been confining, but at some point we notice that restriction and begin to rebel against it.  We try to break free of the bonds that we don’t even realize we’ve unwittingly accepted.

At some point, usually when the pain becomes unbearable, we begin to shed the layers of our human woundedness and seek the truth that has always resided beneath that surface story of our flaws.  We begin to search for the true definition of who we are.  It is then, in my opinion, that life begins to truly be the magical experience that it was always intended to be.  It is then that we begin to wake up to the truth of our divine heritage and release this illusion of broken-ness with which we’ve always identified.

The freedom that ensues from reaching for this personal definition of self is nothing short of mind-blowing!  We realize that WE get to choose.  We alone get to define who we are.  And if we allow others to impact us, we realize that it is a CHOICE – a choice we can change at any point in time.

The pattern of needing unbearable pain to be the impetus to begin this process of self awareness and understanding seems to be shifting too.  No longer will it be necessary to dive into the depths of what has been called “the dark night of the soul” in order to examine and change these definitions of self.  Certainly, that pattern still exists and is a valid choice.  It’s just no longer the  only choice available to us.  That makes it so very exciting to be alive at this time.  Life is shifting.  Our awareness of ourselves is shifting, changing and expanding.

Let the momentum of these shifts carry you forward in your own self exploration.  Begin to release the notion that you are flawed or broken or damaged.  See yourself instead as the powerful, creative and imaginative being that you’ve always truly been.  Embrace the freedom that you hold to define yourself – and accept nothing less than the magnificence that is your birthright.  This is how life was meant to be experienced – from this place of power, grace and love.

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Suffering is optional

Posted on December 5, 2015. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Life holds so many mysteries and surprises – some exciting and uplifting, some downright devastating.  No one seems to make it through life unscathed.  We all bear scars of one sort or another as if to prove that yes, we have walked through the fires of life.  Why then do some seem to do it with so much greater ease than others?  What secrets do they know that pave their journey with ease and grace while others are continually raked over the coals?

The answer is both simpler and more complex than you might first imagine.  Life happens.  Pain occurs.  Whether it is physical or emotional, painful things happen.  However, our response to the painful stimuli or the pain itself determines whether we suffer or not.  That response is within our control, and it is our response which gives us the power to move through the pain by letting it pass or to stay stuck in it thereby creating our own suffering.

Suffering is optionalAs you might guess, our thoughts have a tremendous impact on our responses.  If we see life as a struggle, we’re going to attract circumstances to prove that perspective.  Contrarily, if we see life as supportive, we will experience evidence to support that view.  Letting go of the need to suffer then becomes yet another benefit to adopting a positive outlook on life.

The following suggestions can help to shift your thoughts toward a more positive perspective and thus reduce the amount of suffering that you experience.

Accept personal responsibility.

When we assume responsibility for our lives, we put ourselves in a position of power.  We hold the power to choose.  We have the authority to exercise free will.  We can set limits and boundaries.  We put ourselves into the driver’s seat of our life.  We empower ourselves.

By accepting this responsibility, we raise our vibration above helplessness which feeling like a victim to life’s seeming randomness engenders.  This shifts our perspective as well.  It gives us the insight that challenges happen, difficult experiences occur.  However, we no longer see these happenings as meant to beat us down but, in fact, to give us opportunities to rise up.  Challenges become the pathway to personal growth and expansion.  We build upon our previous successes and believe in our ability to overcome whatever life throws our way.  We will not stay down when we know our own power.

Be open to learning.

Life is about the journey, the continual unfolding of experience and understanding.  We are here, I believe, to experience ourselves as the divine creators that we are.  As such, we are continually given happenings through which we can deepen our understanding of ourselves and our power to create.  We learn about our resiliency, our tenacity, our precociousness.  We test our limits so that we can move beyond them.

When life is viewed with the intent to learn something from every experience, we no longer need to judge things as either good or bad since every experience teaches something.  We create more latitude and freedom to go beyond our previously conceived limitations.  When we can release the need to already know everything about life and ourselves, we open to learning more than we ever dreamed possible, often through means which we never even considered.

Don’t take it personally.

We so often act as if everything that we witness in life is aimed at us personally.  We take offense at a friend’s apparent thoughtlessness.  We become wounded because someone we want to be with is busy doing other things.  We assume that our partner’s silence or withdrawal is our fault.  We create stories in our minds that explain whatever we’re observing, and for one reason or another, we make ourselves wrong.

Putting ourselves in this place of being at fault for every little thing stems from the unconscious perspective of being a victim to life.  But we are not victims – we are the creators of our experience.  So when we stop telling stories that perpetuate the myth of our victimhood and stop making up reasons why we are at fault for things, we are free to simply observe life.  That friend’s thoughtlessness may have been caused by her preoccupation with her parent’s failing health.  It had nothing to do with our relationship.  The friend we want to be with who is busy doing other things is juggling a full schedule and will happily spend time with us soon.  And our partner’s silent withdrawal may be his way of dealing with added pressures at work.  Most of the things we observe other people doing have absolutely nothing to do with us.  So quit taking responsibility for their actions.

Being detached enough to simply observe life creates an incredible freedom to respond with love rather than using things as excuses to feel bad about ourselves.  Rather than becoming yet another reason to suffer, life becomes inviting and exciting.

Avoid comparisons.

When we operate from the unconscious perspective of being a victim, we often compare our experiences to others.  Without understanding what someone else has done to get to where we now see them standing in life, we simply decide that we are “less than” or “not enough” because we aren’t also standing there.  We inevitably make the comparisons about our worth which can only be damaging.

When we become confident about our undeniable value and worth, we no longer need comparisons to validate our position.  We realize that comparisons are actually irrelevant.

Trust that things are always working out.

Holding onto the belief that things are always working out for us puts us in a place of positive expectation.  We begin to see our experiences as life affirming rather than negating.  We weather difficulties with more ease because we understand that all situations are temporary and that by not resisting them, we allow them to flow past us more quickly.  We trust that every difficulty is actually an opportunity to break through old limits and create a more expansive future.  We look at our life as the mirror it is and rather than deciding that things are indicating we aren’t good enough, we see the areas in our lives where our beliefs are creating barriers to our potential.  Then we use that information to create even greater joy by moving past those barriers.

Life offers us endless support when we are willing to accept it.  Otherwise, we can also experience an endless array of difficulty which must surely indicate that we are unworthy and unlovable.  Ultimately, the choice is ours.  We can allow life to validate our worth, create ever greater opportunities for growth and endless opportunities to share love.  Or we can wallow in the despair of never being enough, never measuring up to whatever self-imposed standard we’ve created internally, and having no chance of beating the overwhelming odds that life stacks against us.  One choice is filled with love, light, joy and possibility.  The other is mired in despair, helplessness and hopelessness.

Isn’t it awesome that we can choose either option?!

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No Explanation Necessary

Posted on August 16, 2013. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , |

“Never explain yourself.  Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it.”  ~ Belgicia Howell

We use words all of the time – to share information, to promote ideas and products, to educate and to entertain.  Our days are filled with written and spoken words, but how much of that is just the noise with which we fill our minds?

Obviously, words are not our only means of communicating with others.  Our actions speak.  Pictures are said to be worth a thousand words.  And our energy speaks Never explain yourselfvolumes.  In my opinion, it is actually our energy that people respond to more powerfully than our words, because as we all know, words can lie, manipulate and deceive.  Energy does not.  Ever.

This past week I encountered a few comments on my Facebook page that needled me until I wrote a commentary about it all.  I was overwhelmed by the many supportive responses that I received, and many pointed out the obvious:  I needn’t have provided any explanation at all.  This brought home a point I’ve encountered before and that is alluded to by the quote at the beginning of this blog:  any explanations that I offer are really an attempt to convince myself.

That, in and of itself, is not necessarily a bad thing, but it’s certainly a good thing to be clear about.  I use words in this way quite frequently.  Journaling, blogging, writing are all ways in which I process my thoughts to become clearer about what I think and feel.

So are explanations ever useful?  Oh certainly – as a means of providing information, they’re helpful.  Do they ever convince someone who is opposed in the first place to see your viewpoint?  Probably not, and the reason for this, I believe, lies in the energy that is projected.  By virtue of needing to explain and consequently justify one’s actions by way of the explanation itself, the “explainer” is projecting an air of uncertainty about their actions.  That energy is never going to convince anyone who doesn’t already agree with you to change their perspective.

All that being said, providing the explanation that I did definitely solidified my comfort level in advertising my services on my FB page.  I get to do whatever I want on my page – and everyone else gets to stay or leave according to their needs.  No explanation necessary.

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Standing in Confidence

Posted on August 2, 2013. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Just two weeks ago when I attempted to write this blog, I was in a completely different space.  Now things have shifted, I have shifted, and I see the same things from this different perspective.

I guess I’m learning (again) to trust the process, my process.  I’m learning to trust this new foundation upon which I’m crafting my ever-expanding, constantly moving world.  I’m experiencing the power and the “rightness” of honoring my truth, sharing my voice and fully experiencing my emotions.

The bottom line is that life continues to be a fluid reflection of my inner world.  As I claim, with confidence and surety, the power of my connection to my Source, others reflect back to me the “magic” of allowing that connection.  It’s become such an anomaly, this natural connection to Source, that when we witness it, we’re awestruck and mesmerized.  The truth of the matter is that we ALL have this connection to Source; we ALL have access to the seemingly magical and miraculous happenings that flow from this connection.  We ALL do.  I’m not special – I’m just practicing living in the space of that connection, and it feels incredible.

sea-103539_1280I shared several Akashic Record readings this week that not only profoundly affected my clients, but which also profoundly affected me.  Each reading is unique and special, but this week something incredible happened for me.  I experienced a deep knowing about the power of aligning with my Soul.  I gained “evidence” of the magic of sharing my gifts in ways that makes my heart sing.  I realized that I am very good at what I do, and the more fully I stand in confidence, knowing Who I Am, the more powerfully I am able to influence my clients’ experience.

Life is all about learning who we are, about experiencing ourselves as the powerful creator of our world, and about allowing love to flow through us unimpeded.  The ways in which we can do all of these things are endless.  We can never get it wrong… but, oh, the deliciousness of how it feels when we allow complete and utter alignment is almost beyond description!

So today, as opposed to two weeks ago, I stand here in eager anticipation of whatever is next.  I stand with great joy and confidence that Life will be exciting and adventurous – and I’m ready.  I’m ready to embrace the entirety of my experience because I KNOW the power of my alignment, and I KNOW that I can come back to this place of alignment whenever I choose.  There is nothing more delicious, nor more exciting, than standing in the power of BEING me.

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FLOW Junkie

Posted on June 23, 2013. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I have a confession to make.  I have become a “Flow Junkie.”  I’m sure it is not as ominous as that might sound, and I surely hope that it’s contagious – because it’s pretty incredible and I’d love for everyone to experience this too.

The other day I had the pleasure of connecting with a friend over a three-hour lunch.  We hadn’t connected in a while, so we both had a lot of interesting life experiences to share.  She said that another friend of hers had “accused” her of being a “flow junkie.”  The phrase stuck with me, and I’ve concluded that I too have become a Flow Junkie.  I think that’s pretty incredible.

Life has continued to propel me along my path.  Sometimes I bounce over the rocks, and sometimes I float along with great ease, but the ground I’ve covered is undeniable.

2012 Jun Andy and Friends Slip N Slide 066In the past year, I’ve directed most of my creative juices in to my Facebook page Soul Speaking.  I’ve experienced great success with it too.  My page has flourished and has over 116,000 followers from around the world.  I now regularly connect with people at a soul-level through Akashic Record Readings.  I’ve become a published author by contributing a chapter to a book about the people behind those FB pages.  While that experience included many unforeseen side-trips, I’m eternally grateful for the blessing that it continues to bestow in my life.

In the past year, I’ve become so much more firmly rooted and grounded in my center, in my connection to MY Source.  I see Life as an amazing unfolding of joyous opportunities to create, expand and experience.  The possibilities are truly endless, and I’ve certainly become “addicted” to feeling this joyous connection.  I crave the high-flying feelings of delight and euphoria as new experiences and opportunities crest over my horizons.  I love knowing with every cell of my being that life is always working out for me, and I love basking in the trust that everything happens for my highest good.

I revel in the relationships made available to me because of this unerring focus on feeling good.  I delight in watching amazing circumstances align themselves for me and for the people in my life.  “Magic” happens regularly.  Miracles have become commonplace!

Oh yes!  I most certainly have become a FLOW Junkie. And I cannot recommend it highly enough.  I really suggest that you try it for yourself.  But I’ll warn you – it doesn’t take much to get you hooked!

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Claiming My Own

Posted on July 4, 2012. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , |

During a recent visit with extended family, I was shown just how radically different my beliefs have become.  My sense of “right” and “wrong” has been completely altered – not that I have different standards now, but it’s almost as if there are no standards except whatever feels best at each and every moment.

Doing something out of a sense of obligation no longer works for me, and watching others act from that duty has become uncomfortable.  Why would I do something that I really didn’t want to do?  Because it would make someone else feel better (i.e. that sense of obligation) is definitely NOT a good enough reason anymore.

So, this visit with extended family gave me an opportunity to observe all kinds of choices – mine as well as other’s.  I tried to hold no judgment because ALL choices are valid, but it was curious to observe MY reaction to the happenings going on around me.

The environment was wrought with anxiety, chaos and turmoil – certainly not the usual energies that I choose to surround myself with.  At times, I felt like I was losing my grip on what has become my new reality – this peaceful, calm, centered way of moving with the flow of life.  Fortunately, I was able to connect with a friend who reminded me that I’ve got this, that I’m good at holding my center.

I believed that these alternate energies could affect my connection to my own truth.  In fact, it is the most natural thing for me to BE in the flow of life.  Anything else that I tell myself is simply part of the old belief system that I am releasing.

So, today I claim MY truth as my own.  I allow myself to remain connected to my Source at all times.  And I celebrate those times when my connection slips because it is through that contrast that I find the clarity of my desire and expand evermore.

It’s another FABULOUS day to be alive.

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Uncommon Dialogue

Posted on April 4, 2012. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , |

Our thoughts create our reality.  All of it.  So how do you expend that creative energy?  Do you dwell on the things that have happened in your past?  Do you tell and retell the stories of struggle, pain and suffering?  As a culture, we seem to have embraced the notion that suffering is noble and it’s all we have the right to expect.  Bullshit.  To me, there’s nothing noble at all about wallowing in the self-imposed prison of despair and suffering.  I’ve seen the beauty and magnificence of love and light.  I know beyond question that our lives were meant to be expressions of glory, greatness and unlimited potential.  Do you really want to squander all of that by telling stories of pain and suffering?

It’s true that life throws us curve balls, catastrophes even – but maybe the point isn’t to reduce us to ashes.  Maybe the point is to create the opportunity for us to rise up when everything around us has been leveled.  Maybe the point is for us to exercise our incredible powers of creation as we mold those ashes into monuments of greatness, towers of ingenuity and pillars of determination.  Maybe the point is for us to experience our divine nature as we craft worlds out of nothing-ness.

Life as we know it is changing.  We’re being given more opportunities to cultivate our connections to our divine, eternal, multidimensional Selves.  We’ve been shown aspects of our Selves that we can no longer discount.  We are being asked to step into the greatest version of our highest Self that we can imagine.  And saying, “No thanks, not now,” is no longer an option.

So what are you creating as you tell the stories of your life?  Are you painting masterpieces of color, light and texture on the canvas of your life or are you playing small by keeping all of the canvas dark and dismal?  It’s your choice.  Either choice is valid, but know that the days of casting blame for our life circumstances on powers outside of ourselves is quickly becoming a thing of the past.  Your choices create your reality.  How are you going to exercise your creative control?

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Reaching for Happy – I Found Me

Posted on September 3, 2011. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , |

ARE YOU HAPPY?

A potent question.  One I don’t think we give enough consideration to.  Think about what your answer would be…

But STOP!

The question isn’t, “Do you have everything you want?” or “Do you love your __________ (fill in the blank)?”  The question is ARE YOU HAPPY?

This is not a question about external circumstances.  This is a question about your state of being – a completely internal affair.

When put that way, isn’t it easy to see that being happy is SEPARATE from the THINGS in our lives?  Yet, we all seem so ill-equipped to navigate this internal terrain without the touchstones of our physical experiences.  We all hesitate to unequivocally proclaim our happiness because we are not yet THERE – wherever there is.

Being happy does NOT preclude wanting MORE – more money, more love, more fun, more freedom.  Being HAPPY simply declares that I CHOOSE to love where I am – right now, in this moment, however temporary this place may be.  Being HAPPY gives me the power and momentum to attract more into my life – more of whatever I want.

And it is in the PROCESS of attracting, creating, allowing new circumstances into my life that I discover my POWER.  I AM the master of ME.  I AM the creator of my world.

In knowing that it is all up to me, in owning that expansiveness, I allow all sorts of magnificence and abundance into my life.  Happiness is just the portal through which my power flows.

Being happy is not saying that I’m done, that I’ve achieved whatever the goal was – and now there is no more.  To the contrary, choosing happiness invites greater achievements, bigger opportunities, grander adventures.

Every time I get THERE, I can see farther, pursue greater dreams.  Happiness simply fuels the journey.

And therein lies ME – the truth about my magnificence and the power to create worlds.

My journey can never be the same now that I’ve acknowledged my power, now that I’ve found me.

Let the games continue!

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