Suffering is optional

Posted on December 5, 2015. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Life holds so many mysteries and surprises – some exciting and uplifting, some downright devastating.  No one seems to make it through life unscathed.  We all bear scars of one sort or another as if to prove that yes, we have walked through the fires of life.  Why then do some seem to do it with so much greater ease than others?  What secrets do they know that pave their journey with ease and grace while others are continually raked over the coals?

The answer is both simpler and more complex than you might first imagine.  Life happens.  Pain occurs.  Whether it is physical or emotional, painful things happen.  However, our response to the painful stimuli or the pain itself determines whether we suffer or not.  That response is within our control, and it is our response which gives us the power to move through the pain by letting it pass or to stay stuck in it thereby creating our own suffering.

Suffering is optionalAs you might guess, our thoughts have a tremendous impact on our responses.  If we see life as a struggle, we’re going to attract circumstances to prove that perspective.  Contrarily, if we see life as supportive, we will experience evidence to support that view.  Letting go of the need to suffer then becomes yet another benefit to adopting a positive outlook on life.

The following suggestions can help to shift your thoughts toward a more positive perspective and thus reduce the amount of suffering that you experience.

Accept personal responsibility.

When we assume responsibility for our lives, we put ourselves in a position of power.  We hold the power to choose.  We have the authority to exercise free will.  We can set limits and boundaries.  We put ourselves into the driver’s seat of our life.  We empower ourselves.

By accepting this responsibility, we raise our vibration above helplessness which feeling like a victim to life’s seeming randomness engenders.  This shifts our perspective as well.  It gives us the insight that challenges happen, difficult experiences occur.  However, we no longer see these happenings as meant to beat us down but, in fact, to give us opportunities to rise up.  Challenges become the pathway to personal growth and expansion.  We build upon our previous successes and believe in our ability to overcome whatever life throws our way.  We will not stay down when we know our own power.

Be open to learning.

Life is about the journey, the continual unfolding of experience and understanding.  We are here, I believe, to experience ourselves as the divine creators that we are.  As such, we are continually given happenings through which we can deepen our understanding of ourselves and our power to create.  We learn about our resiliency, our tenacity, our precociousness.  We test our limits so that we can move beyond them.

When life is viewed with the intent to learn something from every experience, we no longer need to judge things as either good or bad since every experience teaches something.  We create more latitude and freedom to go beyond our previously conceived limitations.  When we can release the need to already know everything about life and ourselves, we open to learning more than we ever dreamed possible, often through means which we never even considered.

Don’t take it personally.

We so often act as if everything that we witness in life is aimed at us personally.  We take offense at a friend’s apparent thoughtlessness.  We become wounded because someone we want to be with is busy doing other things.  We assume that our partner’s silence or withdrawal is our fault.  We create stories in our minds that explain whatever we’re observing, and for one reason or another, we make ourselves wrong.

Putting ourselves in this place of being at fault for every little thing stems from the unconscious perspective of being a victim to life.  But we are not victims – we are the creators of our experience.  So when we stop telling stories that perpetuate the myth of our victimhood and stop making up reasons why we are at fault for things, we are free to simply observe life.  That friend’s thoughtlessness may have been caused by her preoccupation with her parent’s failing health.  It had nothing to do with our relationship.  The friend we want to be with who is busy doing other things is juggling a full schedule and will happily spend time with us soon.  And our partner’s silent withdrawal may be his way of dealing with added pressures at work.  Most of the things we observe other people doing have absolutely nothing to do with us.  So quit taking responsibility for their actions.

Being detached enough to simply observe life creates an incredible freedom to respond with love rather than using things as excuses to feel bad about ourselves.  Rather than becoming yet another reason to suffer, life becomes inviting and exciting.

Avoid comparisons.

When we operate from the unconscious perspective of being a victim, we often compare our experiences to others.  Without understanding what someone else has done to get to where we now see them standing in life, we simply decide that we are “less than” or “not enough” because we aren’t also standing there.  We inevitably make the comparisons about our worth which can only be damaging.

When we become confident about our undeniable value and worth, we no longer need comparisons to validate our position.  We realize that comparisons are actually irrelevant.

Trust that things are always working out.

Holding onto the belief that things are always working out for us puts us in a place of positive expectation.  We begin to see our experiences as life affirming rather than negating.  We weather difficulties with more ease because we understand that all situations are temporary and that by not resisting them, we allow them to flow past us more quickly.  We trust that every difficulty is actually an opportunity to break through old limits and create a more expansive future.  We look at our life as the mirror it is and rather than deciding that things are indicating we aren’t good enough, we see the areas in our lives where our beliefs are creating barriers to our potential.  Then we use that information to create even greater joy by moving past those barriers.

Life offers us endless support when we are willing to accept it.  Otherwise, we can also experience an endless array of difficulty which must surely indicate that we are unworthy and unlovable.  Ultimately, the choice is ours.  We can allow life to validate our worth, create ever greater opportunities for growth and endless opportunities to share love.  Or we can wallow in the despair of never being enough, never measuring up to whatever self-imposed standard we’ve created internally, and having no chance of beating the overwhelming odds that life stacks against us.  One choice is filled with love, light, joy and possibility.  The other is mired in despair, helplessness and hopelessness.

Isn’t it awesome that we can choose either option?!

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Figuring it out as we go…

Posted on December 22, 2014. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Life is a process.  Each experience leads to another, to the next.  For better or for worse, we can only take one step at a time, whether that feels like a forward step or a backward step.  We just keep racking up experience after experience.  And we hope that we are going somewhere – somewhere that feels good, that feels fulfilling.

We made assessments about life at a very early age.  We made determinations about our worth, our value, about success and failure – long before we fully understood the depth of meaning of those concepts.  Then we spend our lives marching to the tune of those beliefs acquired long before we had the power to choose deliberately and consciously.  We were subjected to customs, traditions, duties and obligations – and those things became the fabric of the tapestry of How We View Life.

At some point, most of us wake up to the fact that we can actually examine and discard those beliefs that feel like vices around our very lifeblood – those things that choke the hope, joy and love out of our existence.  You know the ones I’m talking about – those things like, “You’re a worthless piece of ^%*$,” or “You don’t deserve to be happy,” or “It’s all your fault.”  Pick your poison.  We’re all carrying some version of it around inside of us.

The way I now see it, the path to happiness lies in exposing these false beliefs that underlie the very Each experiencefoundation of who we see ourselves to be.  They impact everything.  Every relationship.  Every interaction.  Every choice.  We’re either proving to ourselves that they’re true, and we are worthless – or we’re faced with the realization that the very foundation of what we’ve built our identity upon is cracked, damaged and in dire need of rebuilding.

So that brings me back to my initial comment – Life is a process.  I said that to a friend today, and he thought he heard me say, Life is a crock.  Perhaps that’s really what I was saying.  Sometimes the process just plain sucks.  It can be hard.  But only – and I mean ONLY – because somewhere along the line we’ve deemed it so.

See, we came in with a clean slate.  We entered this life knowing that we are divine creators, still basking in the loving oneness that precedes and supersedes life as we consciously know it.  And then we forgot.  We forgot that we come from love and that the point is and has always been simply experiencing and expressing this love in an infinite variety of ways.  Somewhere along the line we messed it all up by coming to believe that we are anything less than who we were when we began this journey as little tiny infants.  We created limiting beliefs … and now we’re on the journey of exposing them for the falsehoods that they are, one by stinking one.

Gradually we begin to reassemble the pieces of the puzzle into their proper places.  We begin to see ourselves as the powerful creators of our experience that we always have been, but which we were taught to diminish and discount, belittle and bemoan.  When we take responsibility for our lives, we see that each experience is one more piece of the puzzle reassembling our divine birthright which is to know that love is all there is.  Everything else is illusion.

So while it is true that sometimes the process stinks, it does lead us to the magnificent revelation and understanding of our divine connection to all things.  As humans, we’re all just figuring it out as we go.  And nothing could be more perfect than that.

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FLOW Junkie

Posted on June 23, 2013. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I have a confession to make.  I have become a “Flow Junkie.”  I’m sure it is not as ominous as that might sound, and I surely hope that it’s contagious – because it’s pretty incredible and I’d love for everyone to experience this too.

The other day I had the pleasure of connecting with a friend over a three-hour lunch.  We hadn’t connected in a while, so we both had a lot of interesting life experiences to share.  She said that another friend of hers had “accused” her of being a “flow junkie.”  The phrase stuck with me, and I’ve concluded that I too have become a Flow Junkie.  I think that’s pretty incredible.

Life has continued to propel me along my path.  Sometimes I bounce over the rocks, and sometimes I float along with great ease, but the ground I’ve covered is undeniable.

2012 Jun Andy and Friends Slip N Slide 066In the past year, I’ve directed most of my creative juices in to my Facebook page Soul Speaking.  I’ve experienced great success with it too.  My page has flourished and has over 116,000 followers from around the world.  I now regularly connect with people at a soul-level through Akashic Record Readings.  I’ve become a published author by contributing a chapter to a book about the people behind those FB pages.  While that experience included many unforeseen side-trips, I’m eternally grateful for the blessing that it continues to bestow in my life.

In the past year, I’ve become so much more firmly rooted and grounded in my center, in my connection to MY Source.  I see Life as an amazing unfolding of joyous opportunities to create, expand and experience.  The possibilities are truly endless, and I’ve certainly become “addicted” to feeling this joyous connection.  I crave the high-flying feelings of delight and euphoria as new experiences and opportunities crest over my horizons.  I love knowing with every cell of my being that life is always working out for me, and I love basking in the trust that everything happens for my highest good.

I revel in the relationships made available to me because of this unerring focus on feeling good.  I delight in watching amazing circumstances align themselves for me and for the people in my life.  “Magic” happens regularly.  Miracles have become commonplace!

Oh yes!  I most certainly have become a FLOW Junkie. And I cannot recommend it highly enough.  I really suggest that you try it for yourself.  But I’ll warn you – it doesn’t take much to get you hooked!

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Uncommon Dialogue

Posted on April 4, 2012. Filed under: Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , |

Our thoughts create our reality.  All of it.  So how do you expend that creative energy?  Do you dwell on the things that have happened in your past?  Do you tell and retell the stories of struggle, pain and suffering?  As a culture, we seem to have embraced the notion that suffering is noble and it’s all we have the right to expect.  Bullshit.  To me, there’s nothing noble at all about wallowing in the self-imposed prison of despair and suffering.  I’ve seen the beauty and magnificence of love and light.  I know beyond question that our lives were meant to be expressions of glory, greatness and unlimited potential.  Do you really want to squander all of that by telling stories of pain and suffering?

It’s true that life throws us curve balls, catastrophes even – but maybe the point isn’t to reduce us to ashes.  Maybe the point is to create the opportunity for us to rise up when everything around us has been leveled.  Maybe the point is for us to exercise our incredible powers of creation as we mold those ashes into monuments of greatness, towers of ingenuity and pillars of determination.  Maybe the point is for us to experience our divine nature as we craft worlds out of nothing-ness.

Life as we know it is changing.  We’re being given more opportunities to cultivate our connections to our divine, eternal, multidimensional Selves.  We’ve been shown aspects of our Selves that we can no longer discount.  We are being asked to step into the greatest version of our highest Self that we can imagine.  And saying, “No thanks, not now,” is no longer an option.

So what are you creating as you tell the stories of your life?  Are you painting masterpieces of color, light and texture on the canvas of your life or are you playing small by keeping all of the canvas dark and dismal?  It’s your choice.  Either choice is valid, but know that the days of casting blame for our life circumstances on powers outside of ourselves is quickly becoming a thing of the past.  Your choices create your reality.  How are you going to exercise your creative control?

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Metamorphosis

Posted on May 27, 2011. Filed under: Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Practice | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Once again, my life has shown me how true it is that treasures rise up out of the ashes.  Through trials and tribulations we are transformed into truer and truer versions of ourselves – which I’m coming to believe is the whole point of our life experiences in the first place.

What on earth am I babbling about, you’re probably asking yourself.  And that would be a very valid question.  Please allow me to explain.

For the past six years, I’ve owned and operated my own scrapbooking business, almost single-handedly.  Certainly, I have had numerous people help me along the way, but the bottom line has been that the weight of the business fell on my shoulders.  Many of you have heard me jokingly refer to Sue in design, Sue in production, Sue in accounts receivable, Sue in shipping and Sue in customer service.  You get the idea.  Business owners wear many hats – and I’ve worn them all at some point or another.

On Monday, my website was taken down by the hosting company because it had been compromised by hackers who were now sending out phishing spam emails from it.  I seriously have no idea how one would accomplish this – but apparently computer hackers aren’t limited by my same lack of knowledge.  And ignorance of the process does not protect oneself from the outcome.  So Albums & Answers’ website was deleted.

*POOF*  With a few keystrokes, evidence of six years of my focus, time, energy and efforts disappeared.  While I’ve been slowly moving in this direction anyway, I was still caught off-guard by the overwhelming grief I felt when the site disappeared.  A myriad of emotions surfaced as I processed through the thoughts, consequences and ramifications of this ending.

Many of you are unaware of the new dream that has been forming and gathering momentum in the background of my running this scrapbook business.  Over the past couple years, I’ve also been pursuing my interest in spiritual growth and psychic development.  You can imagine my surprise as I came to realize they were one in the same pursuits.

In typical Sue fashion, wanting to share what I’m learning and to help people to see life as the amazing adventure that I now recognize it to be, a new business idea began to take shape.  And while I’m saddened at the ending of Albums & Answers, I again see how endings are just the beginning of something new.  So I proudly introduce you to Soul Speaking – my personal growth business to help connect you to your authentic self.

Over the past few years, my understanding of “truth” has undergone a huge transformation.  Truth has come to represent nothing more than those things that align us with our authentic selves.  One person’s truth is not necessarily the same as another’s.  So how do we discern our own truth amid all of the “stories” we’ve been told all of our lives?  The answer is surprisingly simple (not easy, but simple):  we know our truth by how it feels.  When we feel joy, love, excitement, bliss and those types of feelings, we are experiencing those delicious moments of connection to our authentic self, to our Source, to God.

The goal, then, to live in connection with our authentic self can be summed up by a few short words:  Follow your bliss.  It is my goal with Soul Speaking to help you know your Self, embrace your Life and live your Joy.  To accomplish that goal, I now offer several services.

Joy Coaching provides on-going (ideally weekly) support to examine the choices you’re currently making which are shaping your current reality.  By accepting responsibility for everything that shows up in your life, you now have the power to change those things that you don’t like.  Together we find ways to  move your closer and closer to a life filled with joy and bliss.

Reiki Healing, an ancient form of energy healing, helps to restore the natural flow of energy through your body and creates a state of deep relaxation which promotes healing and relieves stress.  Ideally, reiki is performed in person by the practitioner laying their hands on a fully clothed client who is laying on a massage table.  However, reiki can also be sent long-distance as energy is not bound by spatial constraints.  A reiki session leaves the client feeling deeply relaxed, promoting our natural state of well-being.

I also offer Akashic Record Readings to help gain perspective on your life by accessing the vibrational (Akashic) record of your soul’s journey through all of time.  These records contain wisdom and guidance from the broader knowing of our soul.  This broader perspective can give us practical insight into our daily lives that we often miss while we’re embroiled in our personal dramas.

Soul Speaking is about giving voice to the spirit within you, connecting you to the wisdom and guidance of that inner spirit.  Life truly is a magnificent adventure.  Each moment holds the potential for joy.  The choice is ours.  What will you choose?

Contact Sue at sue@soulspeaking.net for more information on any of these services.  Limited appointments are available through June.  What are YOU waiting for to start living a life filled with joy?!

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Opening to the Possibilities

Posted on November 24, 2009. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , |

Trust!  What a powerful vibration to move into…

In that moment when we are quiet and connected to our Source, to God – it’s so easy to KNOW that we are provided for, that we are unconditionally loved, that we are part of something so magnificent and so grand that it defies words.  The trick lies in remembering to connect, in carrying that connection throughout the day.

When we TRUST, we begin to see daily occurrences with new eyes.  We see the synchronicities that unfold, the coincidences that can be none other than loving Divine Intervention on our behalf.  We begin to see the power of our creative forces.  WE are creators of our circumstances – and in the wonder of that lies the power of possibilities.

Trust also brings with it the knowing that we are only responsible for the desire, for casting our intention to the Universe, to praying to God.  The granting of that prayer, the manifesting of that intention are up to God and the Universe.  The outcome is NOT our responsibility.

When we remember that, when we open our eyes, knowing that the Universe will lovingly support us – we find that God provides us with opportunities that we could barely begin to imagine.  In this lies the magic of life, the wonder of the Universe.

Today I challenge you to see before you the vast array of possibilities.  Open yourself to accept that the Universe can bring to you the object of your desire in unimaginably beautiful ways.  Today, ask God to surprise you.

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